Diggin Deeper

Okay my grandfather and grandmother on different sides of the family have Diabetes. One is stubborn because she won't get dialysis to make her feel better and everyone wants her to get it but she won't. (Grandmother on my dads side of the family) The other one was too stubborn to go to the hospital to see what was wrong with his foot and found out that he had to get his foot removed on his right side and all his toes on his left. All this I know it is very stressful to them and it is making it harder for people like me the has diabetes to cope because I don't want to have the complications as them. Here is another question that I have in mind: How can you convince yourself that diabetes is not your life and how you can control it without being stressed out?